Relationship Advice From People Who've Been Together Longer Than You've Been Alive

Accept their faults…

“It’s about accepting their flaws. I thought about that as I was lying in bed listening to my husband snore this morning. There’s been countless times where we’ve had to pay people to do simple DIY tasks around the house that I have asked him to get done but he’s ended up sending himself flying because he forgot to turn the power off.

“Sometimes you want to get annoyed but you just need to breathe and let it go.” – Angela, married for 35 years

Stay true to yourself….

“I would say, whether you’re a woman or a man, make sure you stay true to you, and what you really want! It’s the hardest thing to do after life events like having a baby, but it will help the relationship as a result of those challenges if you keep doing you. Be honest and be true to your own feelings and know that it doesn’t make you selfish or a bad partner.

“As a woman I think we put too much pressure on ourselves to do it all and the hardest thing about trying to raise an independent daughter is leaving her with a nanny or at nursery! Although this is amazing and empowering for her and her future, at times it can make you feel like sh*t. Don’t allow that to happen. Keep hustling! Because that’s who you are.” – Madonna has been with her husband for eight years and married for five.

Relationships are hard. Because while you might think the most tricky part is hooking someone to begin with, it turns out that actually keeping things alive for years and years and even more years takes some real hard work.

Most of us are seeking a happy and loving relationship, so instead of looking at celeb couples for advice – because let’s be real, they always seem to end in tears – we’ve turned to people older, more experienced and even some who’ve been in relationships longer than we’ve been alive for some much needed advice on how to make it work longterm.

But first watch Rose and Rosie play Mrs and Mrs…because why not?

Listen to their problems and don’t judge…

“I think the best advice I can give is keep talking, listening, understanding without pre- judgement and there will always necessary for some compromise. Listen to the external pressures and stress each member of the relationship is under and respect their personal space.

“There will be a lot of emotional common ground but also some differences which need the space to play out. And lastly always having meals together reinforce loving relationships across the whole family.” – Will, married for 45 years.







Accept their faults…

“It’s about accepting their flaws. I thought about that as I was lying in bed listening to my husband snore this morning. There’s been countless times where we’ve had to pay people to do simple DIY tasks around the house that I have asked him to get done but he’s ended up sending himself flying because he forgot to turn the power off.

“Sometimes you want to get annoyed but you just need to breathe and let it go.” – Angela, married for 35 years

Stay true to yourself….

“I would say, whether you’re a woman or a man, make sure you stay true to you, and what you really want! It’s the hardest thing to do after life events like having a baby, but it will help the relationship as a result of those challenges if you keep doing you. Be honest and be true to your own feelings and know that it doesn’t make you selfish or a bad partner.

“As a woman I think we put too much pressure on ourselves to do it all and the hardest thing about trying to raise an independent daughter is leaving her with a nanny or at nursery! Although this is amazing and empowering for her and her future, at times it can make you feel like sh*t. Don’t allow that to happen. Keep hustling! Because that’s who you are.” – Madonna has been with her husband for eight years and married for five.









Don’t give up at the first hurdle…

“I think it was different in my day because divorce was just not something you did. I think it’s about perseverance, don’t give up at the smallest of problems because in a marriage there will be lots.

“I think some people today just jump to divorce instead of putting the hard work in. Relationships are about tolerance and patience and learning to make each other happy.” – Patsy was married for 65 years

Communicate everything…

“It’s important to talk all the time, even when you don’t want to. Communicate the sh*t out of everything but also at the same time know the subtle times to say nothing at all.” – Duncan has been with his wife for ten years and married for one month.









Never be selfish…

“You can’t be selfish in your relationship. You have to imagine or ask what they want to do, rather than what you want to do. It’s not all about you. I feel uncomfortable now, if what we’re doing is just for me. It has to have something for both of you – it can’t be about just one of you. You should just get enjoyment from their experience.”

“It helps to have similar interests but you should spend time apart, don’t always be in each other’s pockets. We had similar jobs but we never worked together so we always had something to talk about. We’re both retired now and love golf but we hardly ever play together. So we can talk about it and watch it together but we don’t get sick of each other.” – Ron, married for 39 years.

Fight in private…

“Something my boyfriend and I make sure we do is always fight in private. If you’re out with friends and feel a big argument brewing then save it until you get home. You don’t give any nosey b*stards the satisfaction of seeing you screech at each other and by the time you get home you will have calmed down enough to either have forgotten why you were annoyed or talk about it reasonably.” – Paul has been in a relationship for six years.









Work around your differences…

“The most important thing is to keep talking and listening to each other is pretty essential. There are going to be times when you can’t think of anything worse but those are the most important times to do it. Accepting each other’s differences and working round them not matter how big or small.

“My husband wakes up four hours before me but we’re learned to deal with it. And most importantly, just be nice to each other.” – Sheila, married for 45 years.

You have to be equals…

“Share everything. Nothing is his and nothing is mine, it’s all ours. This includes money, childcare and decisions. You should be equal partners regardless of who makes more money or who spends more time doing things around the house.

“It’s important because then everybody is relaxed in the relationship – one person should never feel inferior.” – Margaret has been married for 39 years.









Laugh at each other or you’ll cry…

“Don’t take each other too seriously – that’s the most important thing in my relationship. Enjoy a sense of ridiculous with each other, be silly and not embarrassed to be that way. Laughing every day is key and most importantly laugh at each other’s mistakes and faults. Otherwise you’ll cry!” – Laura has been with her husband for 10 years and married for one month.

And now Hannah Witton is gifting you the advice as your very own Millennial Agony Aunt…

Source:: MTV — News